Monday, June 28, 2010

Bad Marriages

I grew up witnessing bad marriage. Husband beats wife, husband with second wife, husband marrying their maid, husband not being intimate with the wife and the last one is a bit different. Wife's not being intimate with her husband.

The last one i just heard about it several days ago. I know they guy. He used to be someone very close to me. He married the girl just after about 1 year they got together. When I got the invitation i was quite skeptical about it. I knew him and it's not his style of relationship. I was right. Now they're going separate way until they can sell their flat which could only be sold next year.

I feel sad for him. He claimed that they have a very different character. They just could not find an agreement in anything. I mean, look at this way, when you have a boyfriend or girlfriend, automatically you'll try to find out their true character and whether you can keep up with their imperfections and whether you guys can get the agreement on their difference.

Now I'm asking myself. Why does marriage seems to be so bad? Do I want to get married after witnessing all the bad ones? Of course I have witness the good ones. But being human, bad ones gives more impression than a good ones.

1 comment:

Cloud8 said...

Hi, step upon your blog and saw this post. My 2 cents worth..
Society values and perception changed as more individuals are educated and choices aware. They claim to know their rights, and thus exercise them when things didn't head the way they want. Forgetting that, the fundamental rule to get along with one another requires consideration, tolerance, patience, communications, putting ur partner before your self. When this rules are only practised by one sided, then the relationship gets tougher and tougher until this person no longer takes it and ended.

Institution of marriage was meant to provide a shelter to our descendants, like a roof for our tired soul to rest after a hard day's work. However, it was put into use by some people to take advantage of the other half as more social stigma is leverage on this institution.