to get married or not to get married. That is the question.

You're 28. Not married. Staying in Asia. You're a problem.

Yup, that's what they think. At least I thought what they think of me and my kind. It's like a pain in the ass for Asian culture to find a girl that is not married in their late 20s. It's like a big sin that you're committing.
It's been about 2 years that I have been haunted by questions and statements like "why aren't you married yet?", "When are you getting married?", "Get married soon! and have lots of children!". Well, I do admit that getting married and having kids is one of human's responsibility in this world. But that is not the only purpose that we are created for.

I find it amusing that people force other people to get married at -they think- the right time. Before 30. I look at marriage as a beginning of all the problem that human need to face. Let's see it this way, if you're not ready to add more problem in your life, why must you?

Alright, I have a friend. Call her Jess. She's in her early 30s. Single. Attractive. Cheerful. 2 years ago she almost marry her ex boyfriend. To cut the story short, she broke up with him. Returned all the valuables that he had bought for her. But the most important thing, she is happier without him that she could ever be. She found out that she just can't marry him.

Jess has a younger brother. Just one year older than me. He has a girlfriend. They had been together for a year and they're getting married early next year.
I asked Jess "Why so fast? Together for a year and that's it? Wow.. they must be madly in love.." She said,"His girlfriend told him that if he doesn't marry her soon, she'll break off with him". "Why?" I asked. "I don't know. I don't think he is ready to get married. Financially. But he's marrying her anyway."
Short and shocking conversation. I mean, what are you chasing for?

My side of the story always comes from my parents. Right now they are worried that my fiance wont marry me when it is damn obvious to them that it is impossible that one of us could live without each other. Eventually, they atopped pushing me about getting married after I told them that I wont get married as long as they are still pushing for that.

Many other stories about marriage i heard from my friends. It is just irritating to have the same questions asked over and over again.